Sunday, October 26, 2008

The greener grass on every side

An old friend of mine called me up from Australia today to wish me a 'Happy Diwali', I guess it was an excuse to catch up with whats happening around us. He's somewhere near Brisbane doing an MBA in accounting and taxation, or something like that. The last time he had come down to Bangalore, I had just started working and he kept telling me how he was completely broke and might have to drive a truck to make a living. Then we entered a college-hang-out-place to.. well, hang-out. And we decided to drive our troubles away by material pleasures. Him with cigarettes, me with chocolates. (Hey! that rhymed)

Anyway, when he called today, after the usual pleasantries, I updated him on the highlights of my life. I told him I was engaged and I'd get married sometime next year. He then told me he had applied at a Pacific cruise company, for a kitchen-help job for 2 years.

A big pause.

He said that driving trucks around Australia had opened his mind. He had seen quite a few places, lived on meagre means and had quite loved it. He wanted to do more of that. He said he'd take the current financial crisis as an opportunity, he'd take up another job and then sometime later, he'd get back to the corporate world and blame his inexperience on the unavailability of good financial jobs. At least by then, he'd see the world, meet new people and get some extra skills.

A big pause.

I was jealous of him and I told him so. At 22, my life was all planned out. I knew what I'd do for a living, who I'm going to marry, where I'm going to live... everything! At 22.

"But you'll rake in a lot of money, mate", V said.
"But where will I spend everything, designer shoes?"
I didn't tell him that. But I admitted I'd be making more than him, atleast for the next 2 years.

V - "You're getting married, you've found the One."
Me - "You're going to see the world."
V - "You're going to be working in an air-conditioned office everyday."
Me - "You're going to visit so many different places."
V - "You're starting a family."
Me - "You can still *bleep* around."
V - "People say I'm a loser, I'm crazy."
Me - "Of course, you are. And I'm jealous."
V - "And I'm jealous of you."
Me - "You get to follow your dreams"
V - "You can do it too, just quit."
Me - "I can't quit, I love my job."
V - "You just don't want to do anything crazy."
Me - "Yeah, I'm not a risk-taker".
V - "Unlike me, you atleast you have a job."
Me - "Yeah."
V - "Yeah."

And that was that. We said "Happy Diwali" again and hung up.

I feel like I'm no longer passionate about anything. I've been through many phases.. Karate, Akshay Kumar, Linda Goodman, my college forum, yoga, Rahul Dravid, basketball, losing weight, French lessons... but now I have nothing. Currently, I'm in a no-phase phase. And it sucks.

I want to see the world too. I want to do different things too. But I'll never get off my butt. The rebel in me has gone to sleep.

Wonder when she'll get up again.

10 comments:

Sharanya said...

u r engaged-aa??? when?? where r the pics??

MultiMenon said...

Engaged eh??man..gr88 news..shed sum light now!! :p

Jagjit said...

let the monster sleep for sometime. It'll wake up and u'll again have something to do. i've been thru it... heck! i AM in it...:)

Anonymous said...

where are the pics, Mus ? atleast, send it to the yahoogroups?

Sands | കരിങ്കല്ല് said...

this was a good post... i like it ...

Selva said...

Romba over...one mail, one call...i keep mailing shrik daily...that chutaxi...will talk to him later...too much...anyways congrats on moving forward....pl inform at least abt the marriage...

Anonymous said...

you dont need to be a risk-taker, you dont even need to be a rebel to continue to feel alive! just look arnd you, be 'open', and u'll realise u dont really need to be driving trucks in Australia for fulfillment....more uncalled-for gyaan only on greasing my palm! :P

-JoJo

Supergirl said...

Sharanya, Multimenon, Anonymous - Yes, yes, engaged. It was a tiny little ceremony, nothing much changed, hence no big announcement.

Jagjit, Sandeep - Thanks!

Selva - Catch hold of Shrik! Beat him up!

JoJo - I'll just call you the next time you've had an intoxicating evening... I'll get gyaan for free!

Phantasm said...

Well my dearest... ud be amazed at how many of these conversations you are going to have during the rest of ure life. The voice at the other end would change... but the emotions and the pauses at this end are going to be the same each time.
I should know.. I work the same Tietoenator spreadsheets you dabble in.. I got a very similar call when I was 21... that was 10 years ago!

Sumana said...

Phantasm - Who are you?! I thought nobody knows about Tietoenator..